And I truly hope that every such couple finds the partner they are looking for. But I would urge them, and all people desirous of a poly family, whatever its configuration, to remain open to whatever and whomever they might meet.
The likelihood of success increases the more open you are. The life we live is amazing, but most of us did not see it coming.
How is this different from what my family did and does?
We discussed things together, and reached decisions together, including other potential and actual partners whenever possible. We don’t have a laundry list of “wants” or “needs” in a new partner.
Anyone that fits into the craziness of our lives would have to be a pretty exceptional individual, whether they lived with us or not.