Maybe you still email with your ex, or have a close male friend at work, or flirt shamelessly with a hot bartender, or keep in touch with a guy who has always been supportive of you.
If you were dating them all, then sure, that might be dishonest and questionable.
I spent playing by the old rules and listening to the old lessons about what my love life was supposed to look like.
I felt frustrated and inadequate when I realized that my love life looked nothing like the romantic comedies that I loved.
There are now so many ways to subtly express interest that most guys are going to try to avoid the rejection and awkwardness of asking you out in a clear, obvious way.