If he acts surprised when the day arrives, this is a sign that he doesn’t respect you, which is a major symptom of immaturity.
I’m not saying he has to have his whole career planned out, but if he blows off work when he doesn’t feel like going, quits or gets fired because he’s too lazy or the job is too boring, this guy still doesn’t know life isn’t always about doing whatever he wants to do all the time. A man doesn’t worry about who’s at fault — it doesn’t matter.
The problem with this prolonged adolescence, however, is that some people forget that they eventually do have to take some responsibility for their lives and become a useful member of society.
And a grown-up man knows there’s no way to win an argument with a woman, anyway. You’re an independent, 21st-century woman — you don’t need a man to pay your bills.
But if he’s not bringing you chicken soup when you’re sick or giving you rides when your car’s in the shop, this is not a guy you can depend on. A man doesn’t care what anyone thinks about him as long as he believes in what he’s doing. No one wants to be a full-on conformist, but we are living in a society, here.
Nowadays, actual adulthood seems to begin around 30.
We use our 20s to get all our partying and hookups out of our system — good for us.
If he thinks being in a relationship means he never has to cook, do his laundry or clean up after himself (or needs you to at least remind him to do those things), you’re in pretty warped territory.