Apps have taken dating and turned it into a giant game of hot-or-not, where choices are endless and real relationships are few and far between.Sure, JDate is popular and apps like Tinder and Hinge are growing, but that has consequences.“The larger a pool of potential dates you have, the more the paradox of choice causes people to freeze up,” says Ori Neidich, one of Davis’ Presen Tense mentors.
I’m sitting in a Manhattan apartment watching the sun set with 11 of New York’s most eligible Jewish singles.
It’s Friday night and the table is a traditional Shabbat setting—a Kiddush cup filled with red wine, freshly-blessed candles and challah bread that’s been ripped apart and passed around the table.
Labe Eden, a committee member at Presen Tense who has attended a few Shabbatness dinners, says he was struck by Davis and her idea from the get go. The idea could seem old school—but each dinner has its own special twist.
He explains it as a more wholesome experience than dating at a bar. One dinner was called Bourbon and Beatbox, where contestant and special guest Jay Stone beatboxed the Shema, a prayer from the Torah.
This is “Shabatness,” an invite-only service that sets up young Jewish professionals over Shabbat dinners.