As part of this pattern, new mothers tend to cut their hours in outside work, which often leads fathers to feel more of the burden of financial responsibility.A common pattern emerges in which dads start spending more time and energy on outside work and moms start doing an increasing percentage of the childcare and housework.
Parents often become more distant and businesslike with each other as they attend to the details of parenting.
Mundane basics like keeping kids fed, bathed and clothed take energy, time and resolve.
Flirty texts are replaced with messages that read like a grocery receipt.
With nearly half of all births being to unmarried couples, some parents may think they have gamed the system by skipping the wedding. The relationship burden of having children is present regardless of marital status, gender orientation or level of income.
So, having children may make you miserable, but you’ll be miserable together.