We kissed for the first time on a snow-carpeted Red Square and, after we got married, lived in Hong Kong and London before moving back to the U. for what I thought would be a temporary period of career-building before we set off on more adventures. The adrenaline rush of living in the midst of political instability distracted me from my personal turmoil.
But for the most part, suggesting a range of fun things that don’t become repetitive could get him out of his set ways slowly but surely. Like I said, if you allow it, things can get pretty dull.
While I love me some him, my partner has no problem with chilling indoors all day, catching up on his taped shows and eating the same rice dish every week. Feel free to encourage an opportunity for the both of you to cook together. Hit up a cute wine bar and talk about more than work.
Early on I used to have a fit every week about what he could do to make more time for me, but at a certain point, after some compromising, you end up just trying to be supportive and patient.
Besides, I wouldn’t want the finger pointed at me for having a part in keeping him from doing what he needs to do to get ahead.
Joking from time to time is cool, but don’t get too comfortable trying to blame certain issues on his age.