I haven’t owned a car since 2014, the year when my Subaru Legacy died a smoky death on the side of the road.
Even in Los Angeles, one of America’s most car-dependent cities, it’s possible to lead a...
For that reason, I started getting nervous about this guy. Whenever we went somewhere with a lot of black people in attendance, I got the side eye from some of them. ”And some days, it was tough because I felt guilty for not completing the picture of the strong black couple. The kicker was when we went to the wedding of one of his friends in Cape Girardeau, Mo. The more serious the relationship got, the more I started thinking about kids. Was I ready to be committed to a guy whose family owned shotguns and went to the Waffle House? His dad played Santa Claus in various malls below the Mason-Dixon line during the yuletide season. I didn’t love his pickup truck — it was cramped and always had dog hair on the seat. Fourteen years and two kids later, race is still a thing, in a growing list of things, that defines us.
I have no idea why and it’s definitely not a conscious choice.
I grew up in a small town in the 90's, where I was the only non-white girl in my class at school and my skin colour was a curiosity rather than a threat.
Black women have remarked about an ever-shrinking pool of black eligible men who are available for dating and marriage.
One of the consequences of this imbalance has been that more famous black women are settling for white partners.
When people asked me about my ethnicity, I would often just mumble something about tanning easily and change the subject, and I brushed off racist slurs like any other insult.