“Being open and authentic to others, and giving them a reason for your actions not only humanizes you but also increases your likeability,” says Flores.
She also points out that self-awareness is critical to personal growth, so knowing exactly which of your actions is making others uncomfortable will be worth it in the long run..
Show your warmth, flash your smile, uncross your arms and give the room some love.
With any luck, such actions will send out enough signals that say you want to be approached.
When you’re ready to make an entrance, the way you physically address the room can really influence the way you’re perceived.
For example, a dramatic catwalk strut really just belongs on the catwalk, so strolling into your local bar or restaurant like you’re parading your outfit for the editor of Vogue is at best going to scream, “Keep away,” or at worst, “I’m self-obsessed.” Try engaging the room as you walk in, casting your eyes around and welcoming it with a smile.
If you’ve got your nose stuck in the air and your eyes squinted into the distance, you’ll look aloof.