Now he can’t risk leaving his clothes on your floor without you stealing them and every time he asks if you have seen a shirt of his you have to lie and say your washing it for him!
It just makes it easier so that you don’t have to get up and go downstairs to let him in the door.
Well, you’ve been binge watching Aquarius and The Killing simultaneously every night until you both pass out so its not like its planned.
You might spend three or four nights a week together, but then you don’t see him over the weekend. Motivation is key to moving a relationship from casual to serious – and if he isn’t motivated, he won’t change. But he might surprise you and he might actually step up. If you get stuck in a casual relationship rut, with a guy that doesn’t want to change, you need to ask yourself why you got stuck in that relationship in the first place.
You might not text or call each other that frequently, and he might leave you at home while he goes out with the boys or away for a holiday. Can you move the relationship from casual to serious? To kick-start him into changing, you need to provide that motivation. Getting into it – and staying in the relationship – with a guy that isn’t ready to commit to you or that has made it clear that he isn’t ready for something more is a painful route to go down.
Hang out with friends, make time for your family, take up that hobby you’ve always wanted to do – whatever it is, try to make your life a little more fun and interesting, and you’ll realize that life isn’t all about that relationship.
Hopefully, he’ll also realize that you have a fun, rich and fulfilling life and that if he wants to keep you, and wants to keep hanging out with you, he’ll have to step up his game.
I have gone through times in my life when I wanted to go on dates and felt like I couldn’t get one to save my life. The good thing about dry spells is, they always come to an end. Now your relationship is fun, minus harmless and safe.